Boundaries And Emotional Templates: The Right Way To Say No

Wow. So wow.

Twitter, sometimes you disappoint me. On innocuous and well-meaning post blows up, and causes controversy. This tweet made the rounds a few days ago. Dr. Melissa Fabello talked about emotional boundaries and what to do to abide by them. She provided a template on how to establish them.

https://twitter.com/fyeahmfabello/status/1196581296564256768?s=21

People on my feed were split. One person, I respect highly said that someone using an emotional template on her would have broken her trust in confiding in others. Another whom I respect said that a template helps them as a neurodiverse individual so that they know what to say when they don’t have the spoons. Both are legitimate points.

I think the original poster had the right idea but did the wrong execution. If someone needs to turn you down, you’d rather hear a response that isn’t copy-pasted or says that they don’t have “appropriate space”. You have to make it personal.

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